In recent weeks various news stories have brought the topic of masculinity into the forefront of the national discussion in America. The phrase “toxic masculinity” is being used to identify a number of ills that our society may or may not actually be suffering from. But manhood, gentility, and masculinity is at the heart of our values at The Gents Place, so we wanted to share our own thoughts on the matter.
What is masculinity?
You’ll find masculinity in most dictionaries defined as, “qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men.” You might smile a bit when you read that definition, because it contains so many assumptions of an era that seems bygone, but an era that we wish to bring back in various ways at The Gents Place. What is it that is “characteristic of men”? When we think about this question, we don’t look to new ideas and inventions of the last few years for answers, but what tradition and culture have handed down for centuries, even millennia.
Men do many things, but they have been in various cultures and religions worldwide been defined as protectors, providers, and presiders. They fulfill these roles not just because they have natural attributes that allow them to do so, but because any society needs clearly defined roles and responsibilities of all its members, male and female, child and elder, to actually function productively, not just for a few weeks, but for ages. It’s not a matter of superiority or inferiority, but rather of complementarity: helping, strengthening, and filling in each other’s weaknesses so that as a family, as a community, as a nation, we are stronger.
Why does it matter?
Masculinity matters because men have a role of leadership in society. Not just society in the United States, but worldwide, and not just recently, but for a very long time. That role is not a license for tyranny, but a burden of responsibility, a challenge to be taken up by each new generation. As we’ve always said here at The Gents Place, when you look your best, you feel your best, and men who look and feel their best change the world. We always hope to serve as an accelerator and maintainer of masculinity and proper gentlemanly virtues.
What is actually toxic?
Unfortunately, public discourse in America is toxic in various ways that are not immediately fixable. But that too, is a challenge to be accepted by men. This means not getting drawn into endless online debates, or being calm in the face of a mob, no matter what your age. Toxicity can be combated by calm leadership and the serenity of knowing you are doing what you are supposed to do, what has been done by men before you for generations. Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle. That’s the response we choose here at The Gents Place, and we know that many of our members quietly do as well, and those actions will have a long term positive effect on our communities, and hopefully, the nation as well.
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